Love and The Psychology of Happiness

26 Oct

The scientific research suggests that most of the things people believe will make them happy, actually don’t. So, what does make us happy?

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What makes us truly happy? For some, the first thing that may come to mind is affluence. Having money to buy that special car or those shoes you have always wanted. However, according to scientific research, wealth does not increase happiness – at least, not after a certain point.

A study by Cassie Mogilner and her colleagues found that increased income does correlate with increased happiness, but only up to a certain threshold. After a ceiling of $75k, they found that happiness plateaus, irrespective of how high incomes rises.

The scientific research suggests that most of the things people believe will make them happy, actually don’t. So, what does make us happy?

Psychologists often talk about a second type of affluence, and that is time affluence. This is having the time to do things you truly want to do. A study by Ashely Whillans found that people can increase their wellbeing by using their money to invest in time-saving services. Whether that is hiring a cleaner to give you more time to spend with your loved ones or hiring a personal trainer to increase your fitness more effectively. Whatever way this may be, by investing in time-saving services, we can increase our happiness on a daily basis and in the long-term, our life satisfaction.

How does this work? Having time makes us happier because it means we have more time to spend on things that fill our life with meaning. What gives our life meaning, you may be thinking? There is a very simple answer to this question, one that has been known in the scientific community for quite some time – relationships! Research suggests, the greatest factor in a happy life is having and maintaining a meaningful, long-term relationship. As professional matchmakers, our team at Maclynn International understand this more than most. For this reason, we believe, we are perhaps the most significant time-saving service you can invest in. However, when it comes to romance, many of us seem to forget the concept of outsourcing.

According to the New York Times, on average, people spend up to 90 minutes a day swiping on Tinder. This finding was found in 2014, and as the use of dating apps has increased significantly since then, it is likely that the upper limit may now be around 150 minutes a day (swiping on Tinder or other similar platforms). There is no doubt that dating apps have their successes, but there is also no doubt that they can be time consuming. Let’s say you swipe across someone who looks like a great fit; they are attractive, well-educated and seem active – bingo! It can take many dates, and many hours of getting to know each other before you want to bring up the big questions – do they want children? Do they want to get married? If the answers to these questions do not align with your own, you may find yourself back where you started – reactivating your online profile to start swiping again.

By outsourcing your love life to experts, you can save yourself that time. When you hire a matchmaker, this is taken care of from the beginning. We use our psychological expertise to help you to identify your deal breakers as well as what you are truly looking for in a partner. We ask those questions you may not want to, to ensure we introduce you to individuals who are truly compatible. We understand how precious your time is – which is why we focus on the quality of matches, not the quantity.

What price tag can you put on the ultimate pursuit of happiness – love? The feeling of butterflies in your stomach or walking hand-in-hand with your loved one who makes you feel alive – that, we believe, is the currency of life, and it is simply invaluable. At Maclynn International, we understand how important this is. Get in touch today and start your journey to love tomorrow.

by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida Maclynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation.More by this author

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