When looking for the perfect partner, the wish list can be endless and quite frankly sometimes a little unrealistic. The more items on the list, the more you are getting in the way of finding that someone. Sure, we all have ideas but we also have to be realistic and make sure we are not setting ourselves up for disappointment by searching for a unicorn. I’ve heard things like…
“I want a tall, handsome man… he must be athletic and strong like a superhero, be able to scoop me up in his arms; a great smile, kind eyes and a presence when he walks into a room; striking good looks, women should want to date him, men should want to date him, everyone else should want to be him; successful and talented; I want him to be good at sports, be able to dance and sing, speak six different languages and be taking home a six-figure salary; he should be funny, make me laugh morning to night; he should be sensitive and caring; he should also know how to ride a horse and be able to protect me in a street fight or a duel because who knows what’s lurking down that alley!”
This may sound like a scene from a bad movie but for every specified requirement, you really are resigning yourself from having that fairy tale ending. Having a total fixation around looks and personality traits closes us off to the bigger realms of possibility.
The best kind of love or connection is the type that can creep up on you when you least expect it. Yes, chemistry and sparks do exist but they don’t always have to be there, to begin with. Think of friendships, for example, were you able to share your deepest secrets with your best friend after meeting them for the first time? Of course not. Relationships grow and evolve over time and the same can happen with the chemistry between romantic interests. Don’t be too quick to write off someone who couldn’t ride that horse or translate that menu, because those things aren’t important for long term compatibility.
So how do you determine what’s important for long term compatibility? A professional Matchmaker can help identify people that have values, lifestyles, and aspirations that are aligned with your own. The ideal partner could be out there for you, it’s just that what is ideal for you may not be what you first imagined. Get in touch with us to explore how we can help you find your perfect partner.