A Simple Guide to Securing a Life Partner

01 Sep

If you are looking for a life partner and not having much luck you may be wondering if there is anything you are doing, or not doing that could have an impact on your success rate. Here are some tips that can help you improve your dating journey.

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Securing a life partner and simple in the same sentence? Yes, it really is possible, simple even, with the right guidance and having our team supporting you all the way. Here are our best tips curated by our relationship experts for you to consider when thinking about securing the right life partner, and ensuring it has staying power.

If you are looking for a life partner and not having much luck you may be wondering if there is anything you are doing, or not doing that could have an impact on your success rate. Here are some tips that can help you improve your dating journey and put you on track to a healthy, happy, long-lasting relationship.

Have a realistic checklist. Many people have extensive lists of what qualities their ideal partner has to have, however, if you focus solely on your checklist you may miss out on an opportunity to meet someone great. One of the key traits of a great relationship is emotional compatibility; how does the person make you feel is a lot more important than what he/she looks like on paper.

Work out what your core values are. Your partner should live and breathe life in a similar way to you and your core values and goals for the future must align. For example, if one of you wants children and the other doesn’t, it is likely to be a deal-breaker.

Look for someone who makes you laugh. A sense of humour can help overcome many of life’s challenges. Keep an eye out for that person that can make you smile, even when you don’t feel like it.

Keep an open mind, especially in the early stages of dating. A common mistake that men and women make early in dating, is overthinking things. By date two or three, you won’t know if he/she could be your lifelong partner, but you will know if this is a person you feel comfortable with and have a natural fit with. Do they make you laugh? Do you feel at ease in their company? Does your sense of humour align? That natural fit is the must-have foundation of any good, lasting relationship, more so than the fact that someone is very attractive, successful in work, or has a lifestyle that seems exciting and fun.

Find someone you can talk to. As time passes, this quality is more important than looks, money, or social status. If you can’t talk to your partner and find support in them when you need it, it’s not going to be a good match.

Don’t keep waiting for something to change. People will tell you exactly who they are, so listen carefully. If someone says they’re usually in a bad mood or don’t know how to be monogamous, don’t assume you can change them. The longer you stay in a situation that doesn’t align with your personal values, the more you stop yourself from having the opportunity to meet the right person. Be clear with yourself about what you will and won’t accept and know what your deal-breakers are.

And finally – choose someone you can be yourself around. Being in a relationship where you can be 100 percent yourself is a wonderful and liberating feeling. You should feel safe, comfortable, and your authentic self around your partner, without sacrificing any of your core values (and your partner should feel the same!).

At Maclynn International, as matchmaking experts, we work hard to find you a partner who will align with you and your goals. We vet our members and profile them using psychological principals to assess compatibility before an introduction goes ahead. Contact us today to begin your journey to an emotionally rewarding and committed relationship.

by Gina Yannotta

Chief Operating Officer, New York City.

Gina Yannotta is Head Matchmaker & Chief Operating Officer at Maclynn International's New York office. Gina’s unyielding passion for the field, in combination with her extensive experience in matchmaking, has allowed her to orchestrate successful and everlasting relationships amongst her clients. Tasked with running the Manhattan office, Gina utilizes her interpersonal skills and relationship expertise to make a splash in the matchmaking pool, personally connecting her clients with their ultimate match while simultaneously taking advantage of the endless possibilities that NYC offers to its client-base.More by this author