What I Learned From My Career as a Professional Matchmaker

21 Dec

Matchmaking is a lifestyle more than it is a career. As matchmakers, we have the power to revolutionize people’s lives are beyond imagination. 

Rachel Maclynn matchmaker

It was never an intention of mine to become a matchmaker, but it has become my life’s passion. With help from my matchmakers, we have the privilege to revolutionize people’s lives. There are countless studies, which have shown that one of the most important factors in people’s idea of happiness is sharing their life with a significant other. This is also one of the most common regrets that have been cited by elderly people. This has been the case in either not finding a special love or finding it, without pursuing it. Perhaps they lacked the bravery to tell them how they really felt. Knowing these things makes it our duty to learn from this and move forward accordingly.

I have learned some of my biggest life lessons throughout my career as a matchmaker. Some have been subtle, and others have smacked me right in the face. I’m sure there are still many lessons that I will learn along the way but here are some of the most important ones I have learned so far.


Within the industry of love, there is a myth that is very much still alive. That is, that opposites attract. This idea that two completely opposite people will put their differences aside in the name of love, and live happily ever after. It’s a tale as old as time, but does it have any validity? Although you don’t have to have absolutely everything in common with your partner, studies show the more you have in common in terms of your values- the more chance you have at long-term success.

Within Maclynn International, we use our psychology-led profiling to analyze and zero in on each member’s core values. We believe that having aligned core values is the secret to long-term compatibility. Throughout my career as a matchmaker, I have learnt that it’s vital to agree on these important aspects of life if you want to share a life with someone. These may be factors revolving around money, family, religion, education, politics, etc.

Values are what drives us in life. Understanding someone’s core values helps you understand what is truly important to them and give insight into the way they will behave in various life situations. Our success rate of over 80% is a testament to the fact that a values-based approach to matchmaking is key in lifelong relationship happiness.

Overthinking the first date

As a matchmaker, I know all too well many people feel that the first date can be an uneasy experience. From the choosing of the right outfit to knowing which bar to go to-everything can seem chaotic in your head. Wondering if they will like you, or if you have spinach in your teeth, or if you’ll do that weird snorting laugh during the night. My only response to this would be – relax. The person sitting opposite you is nervous too, they might be better at hiding it than you think. But remember they’ve come on this date for a reason, so you’ve clearly already made an impression on them. So, breathe, and act like yourself. It will be a whole lot easier to relax if you’re not trying to impress them with your knowledge of something you don’t really care about. They just want to see the real you and see how you are a fit for them. As a matchmaker, my advice is to keep the conversations flowing and light. It’s not the time to dig into serious deep topics yet. These things can be brought up along the line when you know if you have the right chemistry to continue seeing each other. Speaking of chemistry- don’t write someone off if you don’t feel fireworks after the first date! This is very common. Most people don’t feel a spark until the second or even the third date.

Exclusivity too early?

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying, “don’t put all your eggs in one basket”. It’s fantastic to meet a new romantic love interest, with who you have great chemistry. But try to remember not to let yourself get carried away. If you find yourself wanting to become exclusive with someone rapidly, you might not have taken the proper time to get to know the other person. It’s easy to be swept away by fantasy in your head about finding the one, but keep it cool for a little while.

You need to know how your partner deals with certain things in life. How do they treat other people? How do they deal with life when things don’t go their way? How is their daily routine in general? This not only gives you time to reflect on your own expectations but being able to see other people will give you the advantage of being able to compare the quality of connection and the relationship.

This information is just the beginning. I could write a book about matchmaking and the lessons I have learned along the way. One of the most important things I’ve learned is the impact a meaningful relationship can have on overall happiness. Our matchmakers understand the significance of this and work endlessly to connect our exceptional singles. So if you’re looking for a long-term relationship that will change your life for the better, get in touch with us today and see what Maclynn International can do for you!

by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida Maclynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation.More by this author

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