Is Unconscious Bias Holding You Back From Finding Love?

24 May

Is it possible that you are jumping to conclusions too quickly when meeting someone new? Could it be unconscious bias that is holding you back from finding love?

“They’re just not my type…” Have you ever said these words to your friends while scrolling through a dating app or walking down the street? My guess would be yes. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with knowing what type of person you want to date. But is it possible you’re jumping to conclusions too quickly whether someone is your type? Is unconscious bias holding you back from finding love?

Unconscious bias is defined by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons, Director of the Center for Healing Racial Trauma, as “the way our socialization makes us see people of a different race, class, gender, or any other identity, sometimes without realizing it”. Maclynn International is built on a deep understanding of the psychology of successful relationships. This knowledge allows our team of experts to set their clients up with someone they never would have dated in the past- someone who winds up being their ultimate match.

Might I add, these clients are all intelligent, successful, and dynamic people. Unfortunately, something has been preventing them from ever giving someone that’s “not their type” a chance. Does this have anything to do with unconscious bias?

We’re not necessarily referring specifically to ethnicity in this regard, but rather having a firm belief, or bias about the type of person we should end up with- ultimately hindering our chance to find a meaningful relationship.

Behavioral scientist and author, Dr. Pragya Agarwal notes that ‘we have biases or prejudices that we may not always be aware of that affect how we interact with others. Internalized stereotypes affecting how we perceive others who do not fit within a certain stereotype or ‘ideal’.

Think about your favorite romantic comedy. The plot always involves the main character unable to find love up until this moment in their life when they suddenly discover that they’re falling for the person they least expected. We as the audience, savor every moment as the story unfolds and two people that thought they were completely wrong for each other, live happily ever after.

Unfortunately, in real life, dating apps use algorithms to suggest matches based on previous profiles you have liked or disliked in the past. The limitless options can make us believe that we’ll eventually find our “perfect match” as long as we keep swiping. This process ultimately only leads to carpal tunnel and a lack of any real prospects for love.

At Maclynn International, our dedicated matchmakers take the time to truly understand our clients in search of meaningful relationships. They’ll pay close attention as you explain the ins and outs of your ideal partner. You can rest assured when speaking to an expert on our team you are in a safe and confidential space free. Our matchmakers aren’t here to judge but rather dive deep into who you are at a core level and then figure out what type of person is most compatible. They’ll be able to pinpoint and help you work through any unconscious bias that may have held you back in the past while introducing you to like-minded people. All you need to do is show up with a positive mindset and trust that your matchmaker has your back. Contact us today for a complimentary consultation and start your journey to finding true love!

by Rachel Vida MacLynn

Founder & CEO

Rachel Vida Maclynn is reputed as being a world-leading matchmaking and dating expert. Registered as a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, Rachel advocates a professional matchmaking approach based on psychological principles and professional consultation.More by this author

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