Many people feel that they need to experience some ‘out of this world’ passion or need some sort of sign of reassurance before they are willing to commit to a relationship. The issue with this, however, is that the object of your affection may also be waiting for his or her own signs. This can lead to both parties thinking neither one wants to be exclusive, which will ultimately lead to things ending before they even began.
Let’s be honest, very few relationships begin in fairy-tale fashion or play out like our beloved romantic comedies – this is real life after all. Don’t make the mistake of hesitating to commit just because the heavens aren’t opening up and you don’t hear angels singing when you look at your potential partner. The longer you wait, the more potential there is that someone else will come along that is ready to commit to that special someone and you will be left longing for “the one that got away.” If you want to avoid things fizzling out- at some point, you need to face the music and make a conscious decision to pursue a relationship.
So, you think you’ve found the right person, but how can you be sure?
Stop meeting other people
When you find someone that has committed relationship potential it is important to prioritize getting to know that person on a more intimate level. Continuing to date other people when you start developing feelings for someone else can be confusing and lead to unhealthy comparisons. Once you can focus your attention on the other person, you will have a clearer understanding if committing to them is what you really want.
When you are in a committed relationship- you spend a lot of time together. Make sure to try to free up time in your schedule for the other person. No, you shouldn’t be spending every waking moment with them but making an effort to see the other person frequently will make them feel special as well as give you some insight into what a real relationship with them would be like.
Keep it to yourself
It’s really important to keep the details of your dates private in the early stages. Although you may be itching to show off your new boo, I highly advise against broadcasting every date on social media. Of course, you can share details with your close friends and family, but research shows that oversharing early on can often backfire and negatively impact the success of a relationship. The whole world certainly doesn’t need to know the intimate details of your love life while you’re still figuring them out.
Once you have made these subtle but impactful changes in your love-life you should have a better idea of whether you are ready for a committed relationship and if he or she is the person you want to take the plunge with.
At Maclynn International, we offer all our private members a hold period to date exclusively, without time constraints, to explore whether their date is the right one for the long term.
If you are still struggling with the answers to any of the questions or want advice regarding dating or relationships – why not speak to one of our experts? Our team is bursting at the seams with therapists, psychologists, relationship experts, and of course matchmakers all with a wealth of knowledge to share with you.