What Makes a Healthy Relationship? A Matchmaker’s Perspective

05 December 2019 | 4 mins

In every healthy relationship, communication is the first port of call, but how do you maintain a healthy relationship? Find out in my latest article.

What is a healthy relationship?

Healthy relationships are those where a mutual respect and understanding of each other’s principles and core values are a priority and both partners work together for the betterment of the relationship.

As long as you and your partner are happy in your relationship and you’re able to talk openly about your feelings and future desires in confidence, your relationship is strong and healthy.

Is my relationship healthy?

Mutual respect is at the heart of a healthy relationship, but understand that the occasional argument or disagreement isn’t the end of the world.

These conflicts allow you to voice your opinions and concerns in a rational and fair way. As long as you understand the reasons why you’re arguing and come up with solutions or ways to work on the problems, the disagreements are justified.

However, if these disagreements do not lead to solutions and the problems worsen but you remain in the relationship, it may develop into a toxic relationship. For more information on toxic relationships and the difference between healthy and unhealthy relationships, please read “What is a Toxic Relationship and Are You in One?” which addresses key warning signs of toxic relationships and how best to manage them.

The three roots of building a healthy relationship

There’s no secret to building a healthy relationship, as long as you are positive connection to your partner and work hard on maintaining your relationship and respecting each other’s choices. A few key points to remember are:

  • Don’t lose that connection that makes your relationship special

Remember why you’re together and always be working towards goals that make your relationship healthy. It’s not uncommon for couples to fall into routine and simply ‘coexist’ with their partners. It’s comfortable, it’s safe, but it’s not exciting and it’s not why you were drawn to each other in the first place.

Remember to spice things up once in a while – go out for dinner at your favorite restaurant, take a trip away to somewhere nice, keep the surprises coming, and try to keep each other on their toes. Stable unions are of course good things to work towards, but a lack of involvement and passion will eventually add distance to the relationship, so remember to keep yours special.

  • Don’t fear disagreements

Do people in healthy relationships argue? Absolutely!

As I previously discussed, disagreements are healthy if they become a gateway to improving your relationship. Addressing concerns and expressing the things that bother you without being aggressive is important to the development of your relationship.

  • Don’t become dependent on your partner

Being independent is crucial to self-improvement and allowing yourself time to pursue goals away from your relationship. Make time for career progression, catching up with friends, and spending time with family. Balance is healthy in a relationship, so while living on top of each other may sound romantic, it will become tiresome and even irritating when you detach yourself once in a while.

Tackling jealousy; is it healthy in a relationship?

This is a question that divides opinion and understandably so. Being jealous in a relationship isn’t necessarily anything to worry about if it’s minor and, candidly put, acts as a reminder that your partner is a catch! However, if you are jealous that your partner is spending time with another person, especially if you feel there is a romantic attachment, that’s when it becomes chronic and debilitating.

Trust is the key here. People who trust their partners are often very comfortable with who they speak to and their relationships with the opposite sex. If you are worried or concerned that your partner is paying more attention to someone else or isn’t offering you the same attention or affection, talk to them about it. Communication will go a long way and should alleviate any concerns or at least address the concerns so you can work towards a solution.

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You will be assigned your own personal matchmaker who will become your confidant and friend. Through them, you will work together to create your personal profile and be introduced to exceptional people with shared interests and values.

We work hard to match you with people with shared interests and outlooks on relationships. Start your relationship the right way with Maclynn International for a lasting, healthy relationship.

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About the Author

Gina Yannotta

Gina Yannotta is Head Matchmaker & Chief Operating Officer at Maclynn International's New York office. Gina’s unyielding passion for the field, in combination with her extensive experience in matchmaking, has allowed her to orchestrate successful and everlasting relationships amongst her clients. Tasked with running the Manhattan office, Gina utilizes her interpersonal skills and relationship expertise to make a splash in the matchmaking pool, personally connecting her clients with their ultimate match while simultaneously taking advantage of the endless possibilities that NYC offers to its client-base.

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