Are Your Self-Limiting Beliefs Hindering Your Dating Life?

07 Sep

Dating takes due diligence and often feels like a second job so why do we make it harder on your self with our self-limiting beliefs. Although it is not meant to be easy, there may be inward opportunities that can make the experience more seamless.

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The feeling of being disempowered, or unworthy are most likely rooted from unconscious beliefs we carry with us and are surfaced during vulnerable moments like dating. These self-limiting beliefs are not your fault, but they sure are an added weight. Simply put, self-limiting beliefs are assumed truths. They are negative thoughts that live in our ego and have the power to prevent us from achieving our full potential. You may not even be aware of these certain barriers because they often stem from our developmental, childhood years. Self-evaluation and practicing reflective awareness will guide you towards the answers you need to identify these habits, though it is easier said than done.

At Maclynn International, we are not just Matchmakers, we are dating experts led by certified psychologists that have developed date coaching services. For example, our “YDB – Your Dating Blueprint” sessions are designed courses of action to help you discover then recognize internal vs. external hindrances during your pre-dating and dating periods. A YDB session entails 2-hours of consultation, combining coaching with expert advice from our matchmakers, using skills we use to successfully match hundreds of couples every year. You will gain help overcoming roadblocks that are preventing you achieve the outcome you want, including clarity on what practical steps you need to take to ensure you are able to enter a relationship with your ideal partner.

We often hear:

“I am too picky; I probably won’t find anyone.”

There is someone out there for everyone. Having a checklist of preferences and ‘types’ is important and doesn’t scare us – in fact it is our jobs!

“No one is looking for anything serious like me.”

This is a very common misbelief. The want to connect and be loved is innate within us all. Be honest with your intentions and remember to take your time.

“I am not good at flirting.”

Practice makes perfect, and with a little help of our flirtation tips and tricks you will be right on your way to your next playful banter.

“Nothing is leading to any second dates.”

On top of these self-limiting beliefs, maybe there is dating etiquette to be taught, miscommunication or simply they just weren’t the one! In this case, your personalized YDB will soon become a part of your dating rule book.

“I am not worthy for someone like that.”

Say it with us, “I am worthy!” While dating, not only are you learning more about your partner, more importantly you are learning more about yourself. The most attractive trait is being yourself and once you embrace those attitudes, the gates of love unlock.

“I am probably too old to get back out there.”

Age is just a number, and our deservingness of love never dies. We have and continue to service those looking for serious relationships aged mid 20s all the way through to 70s.

Putting conscious time and effort into yourself is important before you consider dating. If you relate to any of these common self-limiting beliefs and curious about our date coaching, Maclynn International is here to help! Get in touch today as our committed dating experts are ready to guide you in putting your truest self out there.

by Sarah Powell

Matchmaker, California

Sarah Powell is our Managing Partner at the California office. She is a native Californian and has also lived internationally in both Australia and the UK. She obtained a Baccalaureate in Biological Sciences and credentials in Applied Behavioral Analysis, which has provided her with a psychology-driven approach to matchmaking. Sarah previously founded her own date coaching business and has years of headhunting experience, thus is well versed in pinpointing compatible couplings. Sarah finds matchmaking gives her great purpose- a life dedicated to cultivating love and connection.More by this author

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